Unraveling the Mystery of Pegging
In simple terms, pegging involves a woman using a strap-on dildo to engage in anal penetration with a man.
While anyone, regardless of gender, can employ a strap-on for intimate activities with anyone else, pegging predominantly refers to cis women using strap-ons to anally penetrate cis men. Our focus will primarily revolve around this context.
Pegging frequently arises within male-female relationships when couples decide to explore and diversify their bedroom experiences.
Why Does Pegging Provide Pleasure?
What motivates a woman to engage in strap-on sex with a man, especially if he identifies as straight?
For Men:
1. The anus boasts a plethora of sensitive nerve endings.
2. The prostate, often referred to as the male G-spot, resides approximately 2-3 inches inside the rectum.
3. It introduces power exchange dynamics and role reversal.
4. It allows for a more passive or submissive role.
For Women:
1. Many strap-ons incorporate bullet vibrator compartments for clitoral stimulation.
2. Some strap-ons are specifically designed for internal female pleasure.
3. It facilitates power exchange dynamics and role reversal.
4. Witnessing their partner's vulnerable reactions can be deeply arousing.
For many heterosexual couples, pegging serves as an avenue for men to relinquish some control in the bedroom and embrace a submissive role, incorporating elements of Power Exchange, a fundamental aspect of BDSM centered around submission and dominance.
Of course, these are generalizations, and individual dynamics may differ. While you may already be a dominant femdom with a submissive partner, most couples do not fit this mold.
Which Strap-on Should You Choose?
1. Harness & Dildo: This is the most common and versatile type.
Pros:
- Versatile and suitable for various body sizes.
- Often include different dildo sizes.
- Compatible with any appropriately flared-base dildo.
- Easy to use.
2. Strapless Strap-on: They stay in place using a "bulb" or "pony" attachment, engaging the same muscles that hold a tampon in position. Some models feature vibrating bulbs for the wearer's pleasure. These strap-ons are best suited for lesbian couples.
Pros:
- No straps or harnesses involved.
- Provides pleasure for both partners.
Cons:
- Not as stable or robust as other types.
4. All-in-One Strap-on Kits: These strap-on kits come with the dildo permanently attached to the harness and cannot be swapped out. They are usually affordable but tend to be flimsy and unsuitable for pegging or anal intercourse.
Pros:
- Affordable.
Cons:
- Dildo is permanently attached.
- Typically low-quality and flimsy.
- Not suitable for pegging.
Selecting the Best Strap-on for Anal Pegging
For anal pegging, particularly when a woman is penetrating a man, a high-quality harness and dildo strap-on kit are often recommended. This choice allows you to experiment with various dildo sizes gradually, ensuring a comfortable progression over time.
Harnesses and dildo sets offer the firmness and stability required for anal sex when used correctly. The rectum is considerably tighter than the vagina, and it can resist penetration. Therefore, adequate firmness and stability are crucial. Prepare yourself accordingly!
This leads us to the next steps: lubrication, douching, and fingering.
Lube, Douching, Fingering – Preparing for Pegging
To the gentlemen reading this: I want you to understand that anal sex can be incredibly pleasurable. As a man, it has provided me with some of the most intense orgasms of my life. I've experienced ejaculation solely through anal stimulation without any manual stimulation—around five or six times. It's mind-blowing.
However, it's no cakewalk, gentlemen.
Before delving into the depths, consider anal douching.
Anal Douching:
I recommend two types of douches: bulb enemas, featuring the classic squeeze design, and shower enema kits, which use specialized shower attachment nozzles for thorough cleaning. Douching assists in eliminating any fecal matter from the rectum, ensuring a clean and surprise-free experience.
If you maintain a healthy diet and experience regular bowel movements, you might not need to douche, especially if you've recently had a solid bowel movement. In such cases, a quick shower or a wipe over the anus should suffice.
Prior to pegging, generously apply lubrication to the anus and the dildo. I recommend lubricating the external area of the anus and gently inserting a lubricated finger to ease into the sensation.
Use a high-quality water-based lubricant, especially when employing a silicone dildo. Under no circumstances should you use silicone-based lubricant with a silicone dildo, as it will damage the toy.
Oil-based and silicone-based lubricants offer extended lubrication, but they are exclusively compatible with dildos made from stainless steel, glass, or wood.
Unfortunately, wooden strap-ons are a rare find.
Fingering:
Ladies, begin by gently fingering your partner's anus with a well-lubricated finger. Allow him to acclimate to the sensation of penetration. Gradually progress to using two or three fingers when he feels comfortable. You don't need to move your fingers vigorously; let him become accustomed to the stretching sensation. Remember, this is uncharted territory for many men.
Gentlemen, remain relaxed. Your instinct may be to tense up, but resist that urge. Relax your anal muscles and accept the vulnerability of the situation. Take it easy and stay calm; it will get better.