Exploring the Path to Pleasure
This is no tall tale! You can become a master of your solo pleasure sessions and turn each one into an orgasmic delight. If achieving orgasm is your goal, it entails deciphering your unique orgasmic equation. The equation can be expressed as: ? +/- ? = Orgasm. The variables represented by the question marks can encompass a wide range of elements, individually or combined. Due to the historical lack of open discussions about sexual pleasure, many of us lack the vocabulary to explore it freely. As an orgasm coach, I've invested substantial time in unraveling the enigmatic facets of orgasm. Numerous factors must align to attain an orgasm. The critical prerequisite is arousal. Without arousal, experiencing a mind-blowing and unforgettable orgasm is a challenging endeavor.
The Phases of Sexual Response
During arousal, hormones are unleashed, leading to penile erection and the natural lubrication of the vagina. The plateau phase marks the peak of arousal, distinct from the climax of orgasm. At this stage, the body is immersed in stimulation and pleasure. Finally, we reach the orgasm itself – the release and culmination of ejaculation. In the absence of prohibitive medical conditions, all humans can experience ejaculation. This stage concludes with the resolution phase, where you struggle to catch your breath, the previously tense muscles begin to relax, your genital muscles contract, and a surge of hormones leaves you in a state of complete relaxation.
Embracing the Journey of Masturbation
This constitutes the full cycle of the sexual response. You can go through this cycle alone or with a partner(s). One of my favorite topics to teach is the art of self-pleasure through masturbation. Masturbation requires a dash of self-assuredness and a secure setting. Not "secure" as in hiding behind locked doors or in a dark basement corner. It's about creating a space where you can explore your body's pleasure zones at your own pace, devoid of shame or guilt, and with the utmost freedom in your exploration. Take the time to prepare your environment for your intimate rendezvous, tailored to your preferences. This could include candles, a soothing bath, a toy or two, and, most importantly, lubrication. Yes, definitely lube. Even if you think you're naturally as slippery as can be, lube can introduce new dimensions of touch and pressure that you'll find immensely enjoyable. Arrange everything you might need within easy reach, enabling you to navigate your chosen path without interruptions.
Savoring Sensations and Connecting with Your Body
Once you've set the stage, grant yourself the liberty to savor every sensation your touch evokes. As your hands traverse the expanses of your body, pay attention to how each area responds. Do you sense tingling or find yourself holding your breath in specific spots? These are the sensations to embrace. You don't have to progress linearly from head to toe; touch wherever you desire, especially focusing on areas you already know are pleasurable. When you sense your arousal building, welcome it. Let it wash over you, becoming the catalyst for your next move. Hopefully, you've pre-opened the lube cap, making it easily accessible for uninterrupted use.
Rhythmic Breathing and the Path to Release
Include your nipples, tease your chest hair, give yourself a gentle hug, or use your heels to apply pressure to your calves. Muscle tension plays a role in achieving orgasm, but remember not to cling to that tension. Breathe through it. Inhale slowly for a count of four or six, then exhale gradually for four. Let this rhythmic breath flow with the wave of pleasure you're generating. If you're stroking your penis, synchronize it with your breathing, which should become more rapid, approaching panting. If you find that inserting fingers into your vagina or mouth brings you closer to release, continue with what feels right. Pay no heed to how your body moves or what sounds you make – particularly your volume.
The Health Benefits of Pleasure
Relax. Maintain your permission to experience this journey. Masturbation leading to orgasms serves as a fantastic means to reach my recommended target of three orgasms per week. The release of serotonin, dopamine, and oxytocin, flooding your brain and coursing through your body, has the potential to reduce blood pressure and cortisol levels. These neurotransmitters serve as both antidepressants and antihistamines due to the relaxation of your body and muscles. As stress melts away, you bask in the soothing pool of bliss you've conjured. Moreover, it alleviates pain, even headaches. I firmly believe that if people are aware of these benefits, they'll embark on more orgasmic adventures. And if you're going to do that, why not do it with pleasure and purpose? Masturbate, discover your unique orgasmic formula, and then communicate it with appropriate language to your lover(s).