Unless you're an ardent enthusiast of masochism or a connoisseur of pain, the allure of spanking transcends mere physical discomfort. The sensation of a light sting on the buttocks or the back of the legs is akin to savoring the intricate flavors of a well-prepared sweet and sour soup in a Chinese restaurant – it's an unexpected and intense experience. When administered skillfully, the spankee's consciousness teeters on the fine line between pleasure and pain.
Prior to laying a hand on your partner's skin, initiate a candid discussion about spanking. Delve into your spankee's prior encounters (or lack thereof) with this particular form of pleasure. Inquire about her preferences, aversions, and pain thresholds. If you're new to incorporating spanking into your intimate encounters, communicate your intentions and proceed with caution. Emphasize the importance of respecting cues such as "Slow down," "No," "Stop," and the use of safe words. (In some cases, it might be challenging for a sexually aroused spankee to articulate safe words other than "No" or "Stop.")
The Art of Warming Up
Commencing your session with a sudden barrage of spanks without any forewarning is ill-advised, akin to engaging in anal penetration without adequate lubrication. Tenderly caressing the buttocks and the upper legs with your hand not only conveys care but also enhances blood circulation. Establishing a sense of relaxation and trust in your partner is a fundamental prerequisite for the unfolding of your intimate exploration.
Slow and Steady
Once your partner has eased into a comfort zone, introduce a gentle, initial smack. In the early stages, favor soft caresses over forceful spanks. The element of unpredictability adds to the yin-yang dynamic, blurring the lines between pain and pleasure. Gradually escalate both the intensity and frequency of your spanks as the session unfolds.
The Artistry of Spanking
Mastering the technique of delivering a satisfying spank is an art form. Avoid making forceful contact that penetrates deep into the tissues, which is a surefire way to cause bruising. Instead, aim for the fleshier portions of her buttocks or the back of her legs and execute swift, controlled motions. Employ a flicking motion of the wrist, akin to cracking a whip.
Experiment with various hand positions. Cupping your hand with fingers together imparts a blend of spanking and caressing. Conversely, using a flat palm with fingers spread imparts a more pronounced impact. Employing rapid, precise strikes with a flat palm and fingers held close together results in a sharp sting, leaves a reddish mark, and elicits a distinct sound.
Spanking should not be reduced to mere repetitive smacks. This is not reminiscent of childhood spankings. Instead, vary your techniques by swatting in different directions, utilizing one or both sides of your hands and fingers.
Avoid concentrating your spanks on the same spot repeatedly. Alternate between buttocks and explore areas like the hips, the sides of her buttocks, or the lower back of her legs. A gentle swat near the genitals can also deliver a pleasurable jolt.
Diversify Your Play
Spanking doesn't exclusively revolve around the buttocks, although incorporating anal play can be enjoyable if your partner consents. Alternate between spanking and stimulating the genital area using your fingers, a dildo, or a vibrator. Reach around to fondle or caress her breasts. Gently tweak or pinch a nipple while you administer a softer touch to her buttocks.
Intensifying the Experience
As your partner's breathing grows heavier, or if she approaches orgasmic bliss, consider intensifying the experience. Let her sounds and movements be your guide. If an exclamation of "Ouch!" is immediately followed by an enthusiastic "Oh, yes," you're navigating the terrain successfully.
Never hesitate to inquire about your partner's comfort level. Some spankees may refrain from vocalizing their discomfort, believing there's an expectation to endure pain in pursuit of pleasure. If your partner enjoys such playful dynamics, tantalize her with teasing touches near her genital area – explore the inner thighs, the crevice where her leg meets her groin, or glide your fingertip along her lower back to the small of her back. Tempting her to climax while receiving a spanking can be an electrifying experience.
Occasional firm spanks during vigorous intercourse can add an exciting dimension to your lovemaking. A swift spank often triggers vaginal contractions that can lead to an intense orgasmic rush. Continuously monitor her response; if genuine distress arises (though it's unlikely if you're applying the right technique), it may dampen the mood for both of you.
It's important to acknowledge that spanking doesn't need to be a constant theme from foreplay to climax. Like any other aspect of sexual play, adapt to what feels right in the moment and suits the prevailing ambiance. Be prepared for the spanker to decide when they've had their fill; after all, their hand is undergoing its own form of exertion, and they may desire a change of pace.
After the Intimacy
Following the culmination of your activities, savor the tender afterglow together. Ensure your partner feels cherished, loved, and pampered. Engage in a post-spanking conversation to reflect on the experience. Don't be surprised if she experiences some emotional turbulence after the encounter or in the subsequent days. This is a common occurrence, often referred to as "sub-drop" or "post-coital tristesse." It can stem from the extreme emotional and sensory contrasts, internal moral conflicts, or apprehensions about her perceived value and respect. Reassure her through both your words and actions that she is cherished and respected, especially if terms like "slut," "whore," or "cunt" were employed during play.
If you harbor reservations about spanking or feel it's incongruent with your nature, express your sentiments to your partner. The importance of respecting each other's boundaries is mutual, and indulging in extreme or kinky activities does not invariably equate to heightened sexual satisfaction.
In the days that follow, conduct a careful examination for any bruising, marks, or welts. While some individuals may relish a faint reminder of a spank or a warm red mark that lingers for a day, excessive bruising or extensive discoloration on her buttocks should be taken as a sign to exercise greater caution in future sessions. Be mindful that certain medications can exacerbate bruising.