Good things come to those who wait is especially applicable when reaching orgasm, especially for women who are looking forward to this satisfying release.
Rimming involves reaching the edge of orgasm, then deliberately stepping back before orgasm occurs and repeating the process to increase sexual arousal. According to this first-of-its-kind study on female pleasure, up to 65.5% of women confirmed that orgasm leads to longer-lasting, more intense orgasms. This revelation emphasizes the importance of understanding and exploring this aspect of sexual pleasure.
Mastering the Art of Making Women Come
There is no one-size-fits-all technique for rimming. However, compelling insights into the movements, rhythms, and techniques favored by thousands of women provide invaluable guidance for navigating this territory. Here are the preferences these women shared during rimming, as well as basic considerations for trying the practice for the first time.
Ensure your partner's sustained orgasm
Before attempting the edge grinding technique, make sure you prioritize consistently bringing your partner to orgasm. This basic step is crucial. Irregular or sporadic orgasms can lead to increased stress when trying this new method. If she only experiences occasional orgasms, using this method may unintentionally stress her out and ultimately hinder pleasure. Tell your partner when you're close, which can put psychological pressure on the woman and may inhibit orgasm. Just as anticipating a premature orgasm or worrying about maintaining an erection can ruin the sexual experience, excessive pressure can interfere with her pleasure.
Women have different preferences for the most pleasurable rimming techniques. While the methods that feel best have some commonalities, finding the most effective method for your partner will take some trial and error. Therefore, it's crucial to think of it as a shared learning process, rather than assuming that a particular "move" will work wonders. Study participants emphasized that partners who think they have the ultimate technology often fall short. Even if you have successfully used edge processing before, understand that different people may react differently.
It's crucial to discuss edgebanding with your partner beforehand
Imagine how you would feel if your partner almost brought you to orgasm without explaining his or her overall intentions. You can't try to edge without having a conversation. It can be frustrating if you take action without communicating first. However, initiating that conversation doesn't have to be awkward. You can introduce the idea casually, such as by saying something like, "Hey, let's explore repeatedly moving closer and pulling away - I've heard it can enhance orgasms." Being on the same page with your partner beforehand will pave the way for a more successful and enjoyable experience.
Master the art of edging around reaching the phase of the orgasmic cycle known as "approaching"
The moment when orgasm begins to build but has not yet peaked. At first, it's helpful when she communicates that she's approaching rather than the man trying to guess. Once she signals, the key is to keep the action consistent. While it can be tempting to increase the speed or intensity when you hear she's approaching orgasm, even the slightest change during the approach phase can have a significant impact. Changing the action or tempo could prematurely push her over the edge or derail progress altogether. Therefore, it's crucial to focus on maintaining the triggers of her arousal until the transition to the withdrawal phase.
Everyone's preference for edge-grinding techniques varies, but for the purposes of this study, we will explore three specific methods that are highly praised by women. Of these three techniques, keep in mind that gentle touch is preferred. In fact, 70% of women who enjoy caressing emphasize that light touch reduces stress when an orgasm is imminent.
1. Pause to grind the edges
This technique requires more time and patience. However, it's very popular with women who claim it delivers the most intense orgasms. Try it by bringing her to the brink of orgasm and then stop touching her genital area altogether, allowing her sexual arousal to wane completely. You may be wondering what to do in the meantime. Exploring other parts of her body, such as playing with her nipples or caressing other parts of her body, is ideal for passing the time. Avoid stimulating the vagina again until the entire orgasm has dissipated. Restart the process and stop again just before orgasm.
Repeat the cycle one last time (multiple times if needed) so that she reaches orgasm this time. This technique is recommended if your partner orgasms easily because it involves complete withdrawal, eliminating the risk of accidentally pushing her to orgasm. One participant in the study mentioned that her partner maintained her orgasm by gently touching her during the final stage. "I could have kept going if he hadn't stopped touching me," she said. Consider this insight when trying to pause the edge.
2. The Distraction Edge
This method is similar to preventing a sneeze - diverting attention away from the impending orgasm. It involves bringing her to the brink of orgasm and then creating a surprising, intense sensation elsewhere in her body that takes her away from it. Participants in the study described the effective sensations as sudden bursts, inconsistent and away from the clitoris. For example, target the inner thighs, the backs of the knees, or other preferred areas that do not involve direct genital stimulation. After pulling her away from the brink of orgasm, rebuild the orgasm until she is close to orgasm, then repeat the distraction. This technique is beneficial for women who orgasm easily because the sudden distraction quickly takes the attention away from the orgasm and focuses it on another part of the body.
3. Continuous Edge Grinding
Contrary to the previous method, continuous rim grinding involves constant vaginal stimulation as your partner approaches orgasm. However, the focus remains away from the clitoris and concentrates on the surrounding area to prevent a true orgasm. This technique requires careful and strategic movements, with regular check-ins with your partner to ensure that the stimulation is teasing rather than leading to orgasm.
When the impending orgasm wanes, resume clitoral stimulation and then stop as before. One woman in the study said that extremely light small circular movements around the vagina were effective. She mentioned, "Gentle, thoughtful circles, then larger circles and taps, then vertical movements to slow down. When I calmed down, some light strokes avoided the clitoris altogether and signaled that we were gearing up for another round by returning to the clitoris." Keep in mind that this is just one preference among many, but it's a good starting point.
Continuous edging feels like fewer starts and stops and provides a smoother experience. Of the three techniques, most women in the study preferred continuous edging because it allows for intense orgasms while minimizing the obvious stopping and starting process. If your partner loses orgasms easily, sustained edging may be the best approach because it allows for a more gradual withdrawal.
Common Edging Challenges
Learning new techniques is often challenging, and the women who participated in this study reported a number of problems when trying to succeed. Here are some common challenges and potential strategies for dealing with them:
Reaching the point of no return Staying on the edge of orgasm without tipping over is a delicate balance. Backing off too soon may result in unsuccessful edge grinding, and backing off too far makes orgasm inevitable. While it's not a bad idea to let her climax, try backing out a little early in order to have a successful orgasm. If she's not quite there yet, return briefly to stimulate the clitoris and then withdraw again. You can intensify your focus on the clitoris later, but you'll have to start the process all over again once she reaches orgasm.
Resist the urge to finish Training yourself to restrain yourself as orgasm
approaches can be challenging, especially for those who aren't used to edging. Consistent practice is crucial to mastering this technique. Encourage your partner by letting her know you're committed to trying until it feels right, no matter how much effort it takes.
Knowing When to Stop Some women may have trouble reaching orgasm again, despite multiple attempts. Others may simply dislike the limbo experience and find it frustrating. If the method consistently doesn't work or causes frustration, move on to another method that suits her preferences. It's important not to get frustrated or assume that something is wrong; this is about finding what works best for both partners.