What Is Fisting?
Fisting is the act of inserting the hand into the vaginal or anal opening for sexual stimulation, either with the palm of the hand open and fingers together, or with a clenched fist. The goal is to insert the entire hand up to the wrist, but due to the shape and size of the average hand, it tends to go as far as the hand can go. With practice, patience, and lots of lube, you may be able to insert your entire open hand/clenched fist into your vagina or anus.Clenching your fist for sexual pleasure is not limited to people of a particular gender, sexual orientation or relationship status - anyone can try it, but it's best to follow some basic safety guidelines.
What's The Biggest Draw?
People are drawn to the act of fisting, or being fisted, for various reasons, finding it inherently alluring.Different & Extreme
Fisting is distinct from traditional intercourse and is often considered an intense form of stimulation or penetration. For novices, it can greatly stimulate a monotonous sex life.
Increased Physical Stimulation
In addition, the physical sensation of having an entire hand inside yourself or your partner is undoubtedly highly arousing. The size, shape, texture and mobility of the hand are different from cylindrical genitals or common sex toys used for internal stimulation. This uniqueness allows for a wider range of internal areas to be stimulated in an unconventional way. This novel sensual experience is incredibly appealing to those interested in exploring fisting.Challenging Aspect
For some, checking another sexual activity off their sexual wish list is a source of excitement. Establishing personal sexual challenges and then completing them in a safe and consensual environment can be extremely satisfying on multiple levels.Important Tips For Comfortable Fisting
If you are considering trying fisting, please take a moment to learn about my tips that will help you have a safe and comfortable experience:Get Clean
Make sure your hands are clean. It is important to wash your hands properly as this helps to eliminate germs, especially in the crevices of the fingernails, thus reducing the potential health risks to the person being fisted. Also, make sure your nails are neatly trimmed before engaging in fisting with your partner.
Get Relaxed
Both partners should prioritize being as comfortable and relaxed as possible. While experiencing fisting for the first time can bring on apprehension, creating a relaxing environment can help to loosen up the body so that you can comfortably clench your fists or open your hands. Choose a comfortable environment, make sure necessary items are within reach, play some relaxing music for privacy, and allocate enough time to avoid feeling rushed.Get Aroused
To increase readiness, keep both yourself and the fisting area in a high state of arousal before you begin. Mental and physical preparation prior to penetration sets the stage for successful fisting. Rushing in without proper arousal can lead to discomfort, failed attempts, or potential injury. Take the time to make sure your partner is mentally and physically ready.Maintaining arousal throughout fisting is critical. Using external stimulation such as a vibrator during hand penetration can greatly help maintain arousal levels and help the body accept fisting.
Get Lubed
A smooth glide is essential to prevent dryness, friction and discomfort during fisting. Attempting fisting without proper lubrication can exacerbate discomfort and even pose a risk. Make sure you have enough lubricant; pre-lubricate the area and replenish lubricant as needed during the process. This precaution is especially important for anal sex, but even for vaginal fisting, natural lubrication alone may not be enough. Laying out a towel before you begin and making sure all areas are well lubricated will greatly improve the experience.
Avoid Using Desensitizers
I've previously discussed the risks associated with the use of anal desensitizers, and the same cautions apply to fisting. Avoid using any desensitizing gels to alleviate discomfort during vaginal or anal fisting. These gels do not prevent potential damage; instead, they temporarily numb the area, masking any discomfort you may experience during the procedure. Once the effect wears off, you may feel any discomfort or potential injury at all.Similar to anal sex or the use of anal sex toys, it's crucial to know when to stop during fisting. Listen to the signals your body is sending to prevent ongoing pain or possible bodily harm.
Safety Precautions
When engaging in fisting, ensuring safety, preventing injury, and prioritizing enjoyment and pleasure are paramount. Here are a few safety precautions to consider before engaging in fisting for the first time:Go Slow & Practice
Practice fist-fucking gradually and gently, and don't rush to use your whole hand or entire fist right away. Take your time and be aware of any discomfort. It takes practice and stretching to achieve the ability to receive the entire fist. Start with your fingers or a sex toy and gradually increase the size to help your body prepare.Some people can fist themselves. As part of your preparation, you can gradually try internal self-fisting through the vagina or anus. Keep in mind that this may depend on your mobility and flexibility, so don't be discouraged if solo fisting isn't feasible.
Beginners Avoid Bundles
Be cautious about performing fisting while in bondage. Especially if you are struggling to get used to the whole fisting, or if you are new to it, it is advisable to avoid bondage. It is safer to maintain full range of motion and control over the amount of stimulation at this stage.
Again, it is highly recommended that gags not be used at this stage. Clear verbal communication and instruction will allow your partner to proceed at a pace that suits you and minimizes unnecessary pain or injury.